Relationships may not always be perfect. After all, they are two unique human beings with different wants and needs. Arguments are so common in relationships that we sometimes say fighting with our partner is healthy. However, it is not the conflict that determines the relationship’s health but how the dispute is resolved and how each member feels after the disagreements erupt. But it can be challenging to control our emotions, validate our partner, and ultimately make things right.

Most arguments and discomfort in relationships start from unresolved wound. Sometimes, we have a tendency to remind our partner certain incidents that happened in the past. Even though you know this act might hurt your partner, you do this. Identify these situations where you try to inflict pain and be open about it. However, it allows our partner and us to look deeper at what was the trigger about and how to communicate better, moving forward more intentionally.

There are various ways to reconnect with your partner, and you can use them even if there is no conflict. Many things in life separate and alienate us from our partners. But by using some of these strategies, we can reconnect with our partner when we need them the most.

Do an activity that focuses your attention on each other. It can be as complex as chess or as simple as a cuddle conversation on the couch. The goal is to familiarise yourself with your partner and update information about them in your head. Remember, there was some distance, and chances are good that your partner has grown up during that time. You’ve grown too! So taking the time to see and listen to your partner will give you a clear idea regarding what’s going on in your heart and head.

When you feel like there is an emotional distance between you and your partner, physical contact can help foster feelings of safety and familiarity. Be sure to hug your partner when you end an argument or walk out of the door after a business trip. Spend time holding hands while you both go for a walk or cuddle together on the couch. Keep in mind that physical touch doesn’t always mean sex, and even though sometimes amazing makeup sex is on the menu, sometimes it takes time to rekindle those feelings after the distance.
Speak words of encouragement and reassurance. Whether your partner is safe or not, comforting your partner helps build confidence and ease anxiety. Making your partner feel desirable and secure in their relationship is not only good for the health of your relationship but also your partner’s mental health.
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